When trying to decide on your wedding guest list the first thing you have to do is finalise your wedding. This will give you the maximum number of people you can invite to your ceremony and reception. It is the best place to start.
Before you start making your guest list you need to sit down with your groom and make sure you are singing from the same song sheet. Are you both planning on having the small intimate wedding or does one of you have the vision of a huge bash? Once you have established this it will be easier to select your wedding guests.
It can be slightly overwhelming deciding who to invite but we recommend splitting guests into three categories to determine who you actually want at your wedding.
Definites – these are people who you can’t imagine your day without. Family and close friends.
Almost definites – people who you would like to be at your wedding but the don’t quite make it into your ‘definite’ list. Most likely to be friends, colleagues and family friends.
Would be nice to invite – these might be distant friends and relatives. People who you aren’t sure whether to invite but for some reason or other their name came to mind.
This is a more tricky part of the wedding guest list formation and requires careful thought and sensitivity. You need to talk to your groom about how you are going to invite difficult relatives and friends. It is best to set a general rule and follow it for everyone. It is necessary also to set ground rules about ex-girl friends and ex boyfriends. The best general rule is to avoid them at weddings. There is a reason why you split up with them and this is not the time for a reunion. You are marrying someone else. A second factor to consider is children, either invite them all or not. Thirdly, do not feel as if you have to invite plus ones for single people. It is a way to rapidly expand the guest list but also the budget at the same time. It is worth not considering people who always get drunk, especially if you don’t really want to invite them. If you are finding the guest list a little tight then it might be worth taking off all of your business acquaintances. They will understand if you are finding numbers tricky.
The very first thing you need to do when planning your wedding is to decide on a budget. To do this you need to decide on who is paying for your wedding? If it is your family, or your groom’s family paying for your wedding, you may have to have a little sensitivity in the number of people you invite and a smaller more intimate wedding may be more appropriate.
Finally you need to consider what you can afford. If you have a smaller wedding you may be able to have more expensive food, or a nicer venue or marquee. You may be able to have more expensive wine, or a better DJ. But then again, a bigger wedding means the you can invite all your special friends, without whom the day would not be the same.
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