Wedding Ideas: The bridal party
How to choose and manage your bridesmaids, ushers and the best man.
Traditionally the role of the Mother Of The Bride is to be the hostess of the wedding. This includes organising the guest list, liaising with the couple as to what their desires are, sending invites as appropriate and then collating the acceptances to aid yourself and the bride to draw up the table plan for the reception.
The ushers are a group of men, headed by the best man, who are in charge of organising guests and answering questions. They are absolutely essential to the smooth running of the day. If they do their job well, everybody will know where they are supposed to be and when, the day will run to time and seem to effortlessly flow from one part to the next. Traditionally they are the 'grooms ushers' and therefore they should be chosen by the groom. However more recently it has been popular for the bride to have some say as to which ushers they choose. Choosing someone to be an usher is a great way to make someone feel important and included in your wedding. They are usually a brother, cousin, or friend but there are no rules as to who you have to choose.
There are no set rules about Page boys - it is up to you. Whether you have them or not, how many and how old they are, it is really your and your groom's personal preference. Usually Page boys are under the age of ten, but not really above sixteen years old as that is treading on the toes of the ushers. However if you have someone you are desperate to include who is that difficult age there is no reason why you cannot include but just don't give him an official name, page boy nor usher. Who you choose is really up to you whether it is your god son, nephew, cousin, son or close friend son, it depends on what suits you.
If you want your wedding to run smoothly and your groom to be as calm and organised as possible the choice of his Best man needs to be taken carefully. It is good to choose the Best Man early as he will be the groom's right hand man throughout the wedding and the earlier he is asked the more he can be included and the more that he can help you. He may have an old friend or a brother whom he always knew he was going to ask but if this is not this case he needs to choose someone who is reliable and does not already have large time commitments. He needs to be reliable as he will be giving an important speech and organising the stag night, so he needs to know when to take responsibility but also when to have fun!
Weddings can be quite tricky for men. From the proposal to the honeymoon, they have some important jobs! The Grooms men, Best man, Pageboys and Ushers play essential roles and without whom the wedding would probably be running late with lost guests left right and centre. The Groom himself has a minefield of a marriage to get through from the proposal to the stag night and from the vows to the honeymoon. To help him on his way is the best man who has as equally important role. The duties of the best man primarily involve helping the groom but also include the Best Man's speech and organising the ushers. The ushers organise the guests and pageboys and help with the smooth running of the day. The bride will have high expectations of the groom from choosing the wedding rings to selecting the right wedding drinks, not forgetting the all important speech. He will need all the help he can get from his best man and ushers.
Some brides know who their bridesmaids will be even before they got engaged. For others, there are far too many close friends and family to make the decision an easy one without fear of offending someone. Whether it is the Maid of Honour or the flower girls, we will try to show you the safest route through this minefield!
The bridesmaid's duties and role can be divided into two main sections, before the wedding and on the wedding day. Both bridesmaids duties are equally important. Make sure you make your expectations of your bridesmaid's role clear and keep communicating. This avoids unnecessary stress and tension during the build-up to and on your wedding day.
Whether you have a massive group of family and friends, or just a couple of close confidantes, choosing your bridesmaids can be more complicated than you think! Here are our top tips for picking out your bridal party...
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