Wedding Ideas: Soon as Possible
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Although these days couples tend to split the wedding bill evenly (or head to the bank of mum and dad), there are traditional rules when it comes to who pays for what. There's a lot of conflicting information online when it comes to these categories, but we're in agreement with etiquette experts Debrett's when it comes to our list - and as they've been the go-to source for etiquette since 1769, we think you're in pretty safe hands! Here's what the groom would traditionally pay for...
Planning a civil ceremony can be rather intimidating. From choosing a venue, booking your registrars and giving notice of intention to marry, the process can seem convoluted at times. Working with Westminster Registrars, we've gathered together our most frequently asked questions when planning a civil ceremony, in the hopes of debunking some myths and making things clearer.
A wedding is supposed to be the happiest, most beautiful day of your life. You've said yes to the person of your dreams, slipped on a stunning ring, and called up just about everyone in your phonebook to let them know the news. Now, all that's left is to wait until Monday morning, and figure out how you're going to inform all your colleagues of the upcoming celebration...
Planning your wedding is meant to be enjoyable and exciting - but there is one element of the planning process which may be clouding your fun. Yes, you guessed it - the dreaded "guest list." Who to invite? And more importantly, how to tell people they shouldn't be expecting an invitation in the post! With a bit of ruthless help, you can reduce that guest list without losing any friends.
The traditional norm is that only 25% of your wedding party should actually consist of you and your groom's friends; 50% should be the bride's parents' friends and 25% the groom's parents' friends. However, this tradition is now rarely followed, making it even harder to cull that list...
One of the most important things to address early on in wedding planning is your wedding finance - as of 2017, the national average wedding spend was quoted as being around £27,000. However, we found that our budget-savvy brides spent a lot less than this, with an average spend of £16,500. As most couples don't have this kind of money lying around, it's crucial to address up front how you intend to finance your wedding. Whether it's with savings, a loan, or help from parents, getting your wedding finance sorted early will save you hassle in the long run, and prevent you starting married life in debt.
Traditionally the cost of the wedding was split between the bride's parents and the groom. As women have become more independent and financially secure, the current trend is for the bride and groom to pay for as much as they can, with help from both families as and when appropriate. This can vary greatly as to each person's financial status and the requirements of the wedding itself, but if you're interested in what traditional wedding etiquette dictates, this is what each person would traditionally pay for...
Sorting your wedding guest list should be one of your first wedding planning tasks, as it will have a huge effect on your budget and venue choice. Once you've worked out how many wedding guests you want to invite, you can tweak your wedding plans accordingly!
Traditionally the role of the Mother Of The Bride is to be the hostess of the wedding. This includes organising the guest list, liaising with the couple as to what their desires are, sending invites as appropriate and then collating the acceptances to aid yourself and the bride to draw up the table plan for the reception.
The ushers are a group of men, headed by the best man, who are in charge of organising guests and answering questions. They are absolutely essential to the smooth running of the day. If they do their job well, everybody will know where they are supposed to be and when, the day will run to time and seem to effortlessly flow from one part to the next. Traditionally they are the 'grooms ushers' and therefore they should be chosen by the groom. However more recently it has been popular for the bride to have some say as to which ushers they choose. Choosing someone to be an usher is a great way to make someone feel important and included in your wedding. They are usually a brother, cousin, or friend but there are no rules as to who you have to choose.
There are no set rules about Page boys - it is up to you. Whether you have them or not, how many and how old they are, it is really your and your groom's personal preference. Usually Page boys are under the age of ten, but not really above sixteen years old as that is treading on the toes of the ushers. However if you have someone you are desperate to include who is that difficult age there is no reason why you cannot include but just don't give him an official name, page boy nor usher. Who you choose is really up to you whether it is your god son, nephew, cousin, son or close friend son, it depends on what suits you.
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