Wedding planning can be confusing for grooms – it’s often assumed that brides take on the bulk of the work, but this doesn’t have to be the case! It’s your big day too, so get stuck in with this handy groom’s guide to wedding planning…
Discuss with the bride
Before you do anything, discuss with the bride what kind of wedding you’d like to have. You might not think that you have a preference, but if she starts talking about a formal ballroom wedding in black tie and you’d rather have a casual outdoor BBQ, then speak up! The day should reflect both your ideas and personalities. You should also discuss how much input and responsibility is expected of you before the big day. There are certain areas of planning where the groom tends to get the most involved, including menswear (obviously), transport and the entertainment, but if you want to be more hands-on, then let the bride know. Equally, don’t just presume that the bride will handle everything, as planning solo can be seriously stressful!
Be realistic with money
Some grooms only get involved with the wedding planning when there’s money involved – namely, when they think that the bride is spending too much. Be realistic with how much you can get for your budget, and bear in mind that often, amazing service doesn’t come cheap. The average cost of a wedding in the UK is around £27,000, so we recommend looking at a breakdown of average costs to avoid major sticker shock. Also remember that 50% of couples on average go over budget, so make sure you put some extra money aside if possible.
Take it seriously
It’s not the case all the time, but it is likely that your bride will have been thinking about your wedding for some time, so don’t brush off her concerns and fears by saying, ‘it’s just one day,’ or, ‘it doesn’t matter.’ Even if you’re not helping directly with the planning, be a support to your bride, and remember that this day is about the two of you. You should be especially involved if you know there’s the chance that there will be family drama – don’t leave your bride to deal with crazy relatives on her own!
Suit up, sharpish
One area you can pretty much guarantee you’ll be involved in is the menswear. Take the reins on this sooner rather than later – it can take a surprisingly long time to sort out suits for you, your groomsmen and the fathers involved. Chase them for measurements when you need them (don’t leave the bride to do it), and research styles you’d like in advance. Whether you’re hiring or buying, be on top of the process to keep both you and the bride stress-free in the run up to the day.
Embrace the romance
This day is all about you as a couple – your favourite foods, music and drink, all with your loved ones. Mostly though, it’s about a public declaration of your love for one another. Take this chance to treat your bride when you can, and you’ll win some major groom brownie points. Buy her a meaningful gift for the morning of the wedding, treat her to some pre-wedding pampering to settle her nerves, or offer to take on the responsibility of planning the honeymoon so you can plan a whirlwind trip away together.