Spending time together on your wedding day
It may seem like a given that you’ll be spending time with your new spouse on your wedding day, but one of the top things we hear from newlyweds is that they didn’t get to spend enough time together on the biggest day of their lives! That’s why we always recommend scheduling in some time for just the two of you on the day – here are some of our favourite suggestions…
A first look
This is a popular American tradition, and can result in some of your treasured photographs! For a first look, you and your husband-to-be would take some time alone in a private place to see each other just before the ceremony, dressed in all your finery. Although it may break tradition, capturing the look on each other’s face is definitely worth it, and can help settle both your nerves before you walk down the aisle in front of all your guests.
Another American tradition, a sweetheart table is a table for just the two of you during your wedding breakfast. Not only does this mean that you get to chat to each other during the meal and won’t be distracted by keeping the rest of the wedding party happy, but this can also be an ideal solution if you’re struggling to decide who to put on the top table.
Time after the ceremony
Jewish weddings have a tradition called the Yichud or Seclusion Room, which we think is a tradition worth borrowing! Immediately after the ceremony, the couple are whisked away to their own private room where there are drinks and light snacks waiting for them, and they simply take some moments together to reflect. We love this idea as it guarantees that you get some time to revel in your newlywed status without getting immediately distracted by your guests, and it also means you’ll definitely get to taste your canapes!
Some couples are keen to have shorter portrait sessions during the drinks reception, as they’re eager to get back to the party, but we recommend really taking your time over your portraits. It may be your first opportunity to be alone together after the ceremony, and taking the time to enjoy each other’s company means better couple photos. Win-win!
One of the best pieces of advice we’ve heard from a newlywed is to hold hands with your new husband whenever you can. It’ll stop you getting split up to talk to separate groups of guests, and will make you feel even closer on the day.
If you’ve been separated during the reception, then the first dance is a lovely, romantic opportunity to connect, but we also recommend scheduling some slow dances into your playlist so that you have a chance to take a breather with your new spouse.