Choosing your bridesmaids is always a tricky part of your wedding. You may have someone special in mind but are worrying about offending that old friend. There are a number of things that you need to keep in mind when choosing those lucky friends.
Who would fulfil the bridesmaids role? If you ask yourself this question and immediately question whether someone is right for the job- they probably not!
How close do they live? If you are expecting your Maid of Honour to hand write all your wedding invitations and make millions of microscopic favours then your friend who lives miles away is not the best person.
What is their lifestyle at the moment? Are they running three jobs as well as three children, under the age of three? You want your bridesmaid to have to make the awkward decision and reject your request, so think carefully about what is going on in their life.
Don’t forget your guy friends! Although it is the tradition to have a feminine bridesmaid if your best friend is a man then don’t immediately reject him. The person that knows you best will give you the best hen night, bridal shower and will make the day just the way you like it!
Finally it is important to let people know who your bridesmaids are. There is nothing worse than the wait for that ‘never-arriving’ request to be your bridesmaid. A real friend will understand the decision you make. Once you have made your decision remember to make your bridesmaids feel appreciated. Why not treat them to a spa day or have their hair and make up done for the wedding? Remember Happy bridesmaids makes a happy bride!
How many bridesmaids?
It is always difficult to know how many bridesmaids to have, but more is not always merrier! A good rule of thumb is to have one groomsman and one bridesmaid for every 50 guests
The role of the flower girl
The flower girls responsibility is traditionally lead the wedding party up the aisle and to drop petals. If there is more then one flower girl it diminishes the specialness of the task and it becomes more difficult to coordinate. So if possible resist inviting too many. In the past, the bride and groom have paid for the flower girl’s attire but more recently the parents have had to shoulder the cost -so this is something else you need to consider. If you are having trouble choosing your flower girl, you could choose the daughter of a close friend who has not quite made it as a bridesmaid, as a way to include them in the wedding.
Flower girls have the simple responsibility of bringing joy and laughter to the wedding guests, simply brimming with smiles and innocence. Therefore don’t choose a very shy child who won’t want to be in the spotlight and will cry her way through the ceremony.
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