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Just Engaged? 7 steps to success and sanity!

Congratulations on your engagement! Planning a wedding is an exciting time, but it is easy to get ahead of yourselves during the early stages of wedding planning. Here are 7 steps to successful planning (and sanity!) as you begin this amazing journey.


Talk… a lot!  You probably already have a good idea of your perfect wedding, but is your partner dreaming of a very different day? Spend time talking about what is important to you, and to them, and make the important decisions with your partner not your friends. Everyone will have an opinion on how you should plan your big day and they will happily share those opinions with you. It’s important for the two of you to establish what is really important to you and don’t be swayed by others.

Don’t make promises. Telling your cousin she can bring her children before you have tackled the guest list, asking a friend to do a reading before you have decided on the ceremony or choosing a colour scheme based on just one bridesmaid’s demands are all likely to come back to bite you.  Don’t make any promises until you have done enough planning!

Find your style. Check out Pinterest and start your own mood board that you can later share with your florist, cake company and anyone else involved in creating the style for the reception. Pin anything that catches your eye to help the wedding professionals you work with understand both of your personalities and ideals, as well as an essence of the day you are planning.

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Tackle the big stuff first. While it can be tempting to dash straight out and choose your dress or embark on sampling wedding cake flavours, start with the big elements; the budget, the guest list, booking the venue and booking any other key businesses that are limited to taking just one booking per day such as photographers.

Be flexible. Keep an open mind and be prepared for a few compromises along the way. There might be some details that are just plain out of your control. When plans aren’t going your way, step back, take a breath and think how much it really matters to you both. The more you can go with the flow, the happier you will be and the less likely you are to waste your budget on trying to achieve the impossible.

Don’t…Make Solo Decisions. There are lots of decisions to make and you may just want to cross some off your long checklist. But don’t sign any contracts or make any other irreversible decisions without running it by at least one other person, preferably your partner.

Shhhhhh Don’t discuss all the details with your friends. Leave a little mystery and a few surprises until the big day – particularly when it comes to what you will be wearing.

Don’t forget to sign up to the Guides for Brides Wedding Planner. It’s free, easy to use and has all the tools you need to help you plan your day. Sign in now

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